Anthony Robbins once said, “If you can’t, you must. If you must, you can.”
When it comes to taking control of life, successful people do not try. They make taking control a must. Think of a time when something in your life became a must. You just had to do it. There were no ifs, buts, or maybes.
When you absolutely have to do something, you just do it. Try never comes into the equation
“I’m trying, Kevin, but I just can’t get my business off the ground.” or “Kevin, I am trying to compete in the Olympics, but I can’t seem to qualify.” Every time I hear the word “try,” the term “definite maybe” comes to my mind. When you say the word “try,” you are already implying you will not do it.
I want you try and say your name to yourself. GO ON SAY IT.
Did you do it? Did you say your name?
You either said your name, or you didn’t. There were no ifs, buts, or maybes.
Humor me for a second. Ever tried to go to the bathroom when nature calls? I’m talking about when it really calls. Or did you somehow make it happen? You get there one way or another because it is a must for you. It just happens. You do your business.
Think of women in general for a second. All of us have or have had mums at some point and time. Did they try to bring us into this world? No, they just did it.
If someone you care about is in danger, do you try to help them, or do you just get on and do it?
Either you do or you don’t. It’s that simple. In the words of Nike, “Just Do It.”
What I am getting at is that the word “try” shouldn’t even exist. In fact, if I had it my way, I would make the use of the word “try” illegal. Ban it from your vocabulary. Make everything that is important in your life a must.
It is only through love and compassion that we can help someone to overcome adversities.
If we always express disappointments or regrets over someone’s mistake, as always happens in the courts or schools, we are not really helping that person in any way. Subconsciously, we have already passed a sentence when we say that. That is not really kind and music to the ears. Although it is not harsh words, the words you express could be condemning to the rest of his or her life.
So watch what you are saying..by punishing or saying mean things to them you are not helping them or yourself to love. It really is only through love that you can help anyone. It is only through love you can help yourself.
By treating others with respect first, you will attract the same into your own reality. You have a resolve within yourself of how you want to be treated but at the same time not treat them as they have treated you.
I’m just going to throw some ideas out there, so forgive me if I say something that makes little sense.
What you seem to be experiencing is the natural ebb and flow of life. You take two steps forward and then one step back. It’s progress, but when you take a step back, it seems like you failed and “lost it”. Yes Marie Callas, that’s my feeling sometimes.
Basically, when things are going well, know that things might eventually go less well or even badly. When things are going well, you can make plans to get away, coming back refreshed and renewed and ready.
As for sharing, you could always start a blog to tell us how you feel at that time. Many are into blogging nowadays… I started almost two years ago, and I was surprised myself that i can last till now as I started it I didn’t think that I would have anyone paying attention to what I say. Glad some people come here.
In the past few months, I felt like I was failing, and it was actually encouraging to have people by to the blog. Some people were just giving me friendly advice, and others were practically demanding some accountability for the things I was planning on doing! When you work as an employee, it’s easier because there is always a boss asking for your productivity. When you work for yourself, you’re it. To have people encouraging me and looking for results, even though they have no obligation, is amazing.
I also need to be better at being persistent and focused. I’ve just learned that when I fail or otherwise feel like I came up short, I can’t beat myself up over it. Feeling guilty or otherwise incongruent, as Marie Callas would say, isn’t going to help. Just correct your heading, and continue.
Life was the hardest when it was down and frustrating. I can understand how some people feel, especially those who have big amount of debts to clear. For example, a friend’s friend, who owed bank nearly $1 million after his business was washed out in this global crisis. Really feel very sorry for him. When life is not shining at you, you may get tripped. Learn from time to time to appreciate life and show gratitude. Do not go mad (meaning never show it enough respect) at money because it is so spiritual.
It’s really easy to get caught up in your success and happiness, and that’s GREAT, but you do have to “share the wealth” and I hope that I never give off the image to anyone that once things are settled with me I’m not available to help them. I hope that I’ve never pushed anyone away that needs support and someone to talk to. But this is a selfish human here talking…vow is that I’ll work very hard and will continue to work very hard on staying focused and helping others.
There is nothing wrong with reflecting on your past as long as you understand that you can learn from it and make your future more hopeful.
Thanks Marie Callas for the wisdom..
We need to firm up our foundation to all success. And that is a “Winning Attitude”.
Attitude determines how far we will go. Of course, there are a few other determining factors like knowledge, network, intelligence, bravery and even luck.
For me, I have since learned from Marie Callas and many great men that failure is never an insult but it’s just another experience for you to grow and walk further.
Out of all situations positive or negative, I have a:
1) Outcome
2) Results
3) Feedback
4) Learning
5) experience
6) etc…
As you can see from the above list, I plan to deliver and I know failure is never a disgrace. Never!
I’m a positive guy and I look at the glass of water being half-full instead of half-empty.
I think outside of the box most of the time too and I dislike the rules. It stifles our ability to think out of the box based on my earlier experience.
BUT, a Winning Attitude needs a buddy to be as its tact team to success. The name of the buddy is called “ACTION!”
Winning Attitude + Action (Right ACTION) = Success!!
Practise this formula and you will never fail in the long run, but expect some growing bumps in between.
